Dealing with stress is an ongoing process. Take time throughout the day to think about what you can do to make your married life less stressful.
Are you under so much stress right now?
Being married comes with perks but is very stressful. I don't have children, but running the house, doing household chores, cooking, building biz, and at the same time having a full-time job cause me a lot of stress. How much more when you have children on top of your eldest child, your husband?
One day, my friend and I talked about who holds the family better, the mother or the father. We came out to the conclusion that the mother is the stronger glue in the family.
When a mother is gone or unhealthy, it may cause a family to break down compared to when the father is gone. Usually, the mother will most likely keep everything going, even in the absence of a father.
Hence, this shows a woman's important role in the family and marriage.
The saying goes, "A happy wife is a happy life." Many husbands agree with this saying, including my husband.
But how can you keep your sanity intact? How can you keep yourself happy and at peace given all the responsibilities you must tackle daily in your life As a wife and a mother?
As a married working woman, you wear many hats. You are juggling different responsibilities and trying to fit everything into your schedule. Perhaps you wish that you have more than 24 hours a day. Balancing your life, work, family, etc., is very stressful. Yet, sometimes you don't feel that your stress is building up and think that feeling irritable, sad, restless, and anxious is your natural state.
Meanwhile, chronic tension affects your body, weakens your immune system, and increases your risk for many health issues, like migraines, colds, heart disease, and diabetes.
Hence, it is beneficial for you to learn effective stress relief strategies that you can do quickly in a short period, given your limited time.
Here are some quick stress relief strategies you can use throughout the day to help you feel relaxed.
1. Practice Deep Breathing. Take a 30-second to 1-minute deep breathing exercise throughout the day, especially when transitioning from one task to another. As you breathe in, breathe in peace and as you breathe out, release your tension. You can also set your intention for your following tasks right after your breathing exercise.
2. Laugh. Life is too short. Don't take yourself too seriously. Permit yourself to make mistakes and laugh at your errors. Did you wear two different shoes to work? Well, that's fashion.
One of the things I do when I am in a very stressful situation is taking a 3-5 minute break away from other people. Then, I go to the bathroom, look at the mirror and make funny movements and faces. It cracks me up, and I will start laughing. It helps me relieve stress. You try it.
Another way you can do this is to induce laughter. I know that will make your husband and children wonder and laugh too.
3. Dance. Express yourself through dancing. When you are dancing, you move your muscles and your joints. It will improve your endurance and muscle strength, strengthen bones, and improve the conditions of your heart and lungs, which are necessary for a superwoman like you.
Also, it will make you feel sexy and desirable. It may spice up your intimate moment with your husband
One of the things I like about dancing is you can incorporate it with your task. You can dance while cleaning or cooking. What a fun way to do chores!
3. Ask for help. I know sometimes you think you can do it all. Maybe you don't want to bother your children or your husband. But beautiful you, your loads are lighter when you share them with someone. Don't hesitate to ask for help when you need them.
Also, do not expect your husband to know you need help by looking at you. They are not mind readers like us women...
Please don’t silently cry in the corner thinking your husband is so insensitive. You are tired, but your husband sits there. He doesn’t offer you help. Sometimes they just don’t know that you need help. So, please Use your Words kindly.
4. Pray and meditate. These, I believe, are the most potent stress relief in the whole wide world. A prayer you can do whenever or wherever. When you pray, you relieve your stress by giving your stressful situations to someone higher than you. When you meditate, you are taking yourself to a deeper form of relaxation. You can find time to meditate. Quick 3-minute breathing meditation can relieve you from your stressful situations.
Dealing with stress is an ongoing process. Take time throughout the day to think about what you can do to make your married life less stressful.
Being stressed, worried, and anxious is a habit caused by your thinking, feeling, and behaving patterns. You can alleviate these states by creating stress-free habits.
The effective and sustainable way of relieving yourself from stressful life is to love yourself. You will care for your mind, body, and spirit when you love yourself.
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Dolly Tampos-Oksman
Certified Transformational and Wellness Coach