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How to Change the Way You Think and Develop Self-Love

Change the way you think about yourself and love yourself as you are. When you develop a deeper relationship with yourself, you will enjoy your life more and build healthier relationships with others.

Do you want to love and develop a deeper relationship with yourself?

Do people around you tell you that you should love and think about yourself, but you don't know what it means and where to begin?

Please continue reading this blog and learn how to develop the love that you want for yourself.

The two greatest commandments of Jesus in the Bible are to love God above all and to love others as you love yourself (Matthew 22:37-39). Many church leaders, however, emphasize loving God and loving others. Hence, some of them who try to follow the church's teachings feel guilty when they take care of their own needs. They think that if they put themselves first and think highly of themselves, they will displease God.

I experienced this personally. Hence, I ended up with too much stress, feeling insecure and not good enough because I thought I kept displeasing God when I made other people unhappy. I was living in shame and guilt and constantly afraid to make mistakes.

When I reached the rock bottom of my life, feeling so empty and depressed, a nun pointed out to me that I needed to love myself.  Our relationship with ourselves is a vital connection in our lives if we want to be happy and experience inner peace. However, this relationship we have with ourselves is often neglected. In our busyness and lack of time, we frequently forget to spend time with ourselves.

You may be experiencing a lot of stress right now and feeling empty. Please take care and love yourself before it's too late. Protect your health and well-being by positively changing how you think and treat yourself. When you're ready to make positive changes, you can start by creating self-love habits. You can begin with our book Finding Your Lost Self: Your 30-Day Journey to Self-love. Please click the link to learn more.


Here are some strategies you can do right now to help you think highly of yourself.

    1. Accept yourself for who you are. Know that you are worthy of love and respect. Your value as a person doesn't diminish even if you make mistakes. Embrace yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.

    2. Clarify your purpose. Deep within you is a calling that only you can answer. You can hear this calling when you spend time with yourself and clarify this calling when you start acting on it. Invent your definition of success. Ask yourself what a meaningful life means to you, even if that answer changes over time.

    3. Talk yourself up. How do you speak to yourself? There is power in your words. Choose words that are encouraging and uplifting. Use your internal dialogue to build your confidence and manage your emotions.

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 4. Avoid comparisons. Social media has increased the potential for envy and inferiority complexes. Many people feel depressed and insecure because they compare themselves with others. They feel unaccomplished and not good enough, especially when they see their friends succeed and other people living the life that they want to live.

Celebrate your little wins and compare yourself to where you were and where you are now. You can make those people living the life you want as your model for your success. Ask them or connect with them so you can learn from them instead of wallowing in self-pity. Success leaves clues. 


5. Pick friends wisely. My grade school teacher told us, her students, that "birds of the same feather flock together." Pick friends with goals to improve their lives and reach the next level. Cultivate close relationships with others who share your goals. You spend more time with those who will encourage and support you to achieve your full potential. Pick friends with whom you can engage in deep conversations to share your true feelings without being judged.

  6. Maintain boundaries. Know your limits so you can define what behavior you consider acceptable. If you're a people pleaser, you struggle with setting boundaries, fearing they will reject you. Having no boundaries is one of the primary ingredients for burnout. Define your boundaries and communicate them with others. Those people who genuinely love you will appreciate you for having boundaries.

7. Practice self-care. The outcome you're experiencing in your life right now results from habits. When you love yourself, you will create habits that will help strengthen your mind, body, and spirit. If you want to develop more self-love habits, Join the Finding Your Lost Self: Your 30 Day to Self-Love Challenge. 

 9. Seek support. Feel free to ask for what you need. Let others know precisely what they can do to help you, whether you're looking for help writing your report or practical assistance like asking someone to pitch in on household chores or to listen while you sort out your feelings.

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Change the way you think about yourself and love yourself as you are. When you develop a deeper relationship with yourself, you will enjoy your life more and build healthier relationships with others.

Create self-love habits now and treat yourself with kindness and respect.

Remember to read Finding Your Lost Self: Your 30-Day Journey to Self-Love. This book is a great guide to help you develop good habits that will make you love yourself more. 

How about you? Do you love yourself? If you're unsure or struggling with it, please take our self-love inventory and learn where you are in your relationship with yourself and your next steps.

Please write in the comment below what self-love habits you want to develop. Then, share this blog with someone you know who may need this message.


About Dolly

Dolly Tampos Oksman, MA, MAED-SPED, is a Transformational Speaker, Author, Certified Wellness Coach, Special Education Teacher, and Behavior Analyst. She is the Founder and Owner of Love. Heal. Believe. LLC.

Dolly experienced chronic stress that affected her mental and emotional health. However, when she entered the convent to be a missionary nun, she learned the secrets of how to live a fulfilled life with inner peace and joy. Today, she is sharing those secrets with you.

Dolly is on a mission to help you develop a deeper love for yourself and find long-term solutions to stress. Her new book, Finding Your Lost Self, which is also available on AMAZON and her programs & Services will take you on a step-by-step journey to a happier, healthier, and calmer life with less stress. Please contact Dolly HERE.



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