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Meet, Know, and Be a friend to your inner child.

In today's blog, I want to share with you the different ways to connect with your inner child.

What is the inner child, and why is it essential to connect with your inner child?

The Inner Child was introduced by Carl Jung, a psychotherapist, and psychiatrist in the early 20th century.

The inner child refers to past experiences and memories that influence us throughout our life.

Our experience can be both positive. We may grow up with a supportive family and adults around us, giving us a healthy inner child-happy and confident. Our experience can also be traumatic.

Do you have fears that you do not understand? Do you wonder why you are scared of a particular thing?

I remember my soul friend, who has an extreme fear of snake that even the word snake will shake her body.

There was a time when I was in my classroom, I heard my new student cry. For some reason, his cry caused me so much stress, anxiety, and fear. I felt my head was going to explode, and I had to leave the classroom and asked the teacher aides to handle the situation.

When I came home, I went to a meditative state to explore the feelings that I felt. I asked where my feelings came from.

My 4-year-old inner child showed up. She was with her grandma. Grandma was expecting grandpa to show up along with her only daughter and three grandchildren. However, instead of them, their neighbor showed up.

Their neighbor gave her horrifying news that no person should receive. He told her that my grandpa, my aunt, and my cousins were massacred. My grandma wailed with anguish and desperation.

With this, I understand why that cry causes me so much anxiety and fear. I associated my student's cry with my grandma's cry for my grandpa, aunt, and cousins' death.

How can you connect with your inner child?

1. Meditative Practice

The first time I met my inner child was during my meditation. I was wondering why I had a feeling of profound emptiness within me.

Before my meditation, I asked myself why I had that feeling of emptiness. Then my 6-year inner child showed up and showed me the reason for that feeling. It was like a movie in my mind.

2. Remembering your Childhood days.

You can talk to your parents, siblings, and people around you growing up and ask them how you were a child. Old photographs, music, food, and other things that spark childhood memories can help you connect with your inner child.

I love to talk to my parents, brothers, and sister about how we were. Talking about what we were doing in our past provides a glimpse of our inner child.

Is our inner child happy, adventurous?

Are there things you like to do as a child?

Remembering your childhood days will also give you a glimpse of what really makes you happy, your strengths, and your weaknesses.

It can also give us a glimpse of who you really are.

Before I decided to go back to school and take a master's degree in Education, I called my mom and told her about my plan.

My purpose was to keep in touch with my inner child on what she liked to do as a child. I also wanted to know if I would really enjoy teaching since I had a traumatic experience.

Excitedly, my mom said that I used to gather children younger than me from our neighborhood when I was a child, and I will teach them.

My mom just gave me a glimpse of what I enjoyed doing as a child.

3. Talk to your inner child.

You might feel uncomfortable with this idea. But I do this a lot. I love to talk to my inner child, especially when I am struggling with something.

For example, I had this belief that I am not good enough, I am not beautiful, and who am I for people to listen to me.

When I started my online business, my coach told me to have online videos or write blogs. But it took me forever to start. In my head, I said, "Ok. I will do that," but in my gut, I felt so much anxiety and fear.

So, I talk to my inner child and ask her why I am so afraid of it. Then she told me her experience when she was in first grade. She wanted to participate in a dance presentation at school because they will dance her favorite song, "Pearly Shells."

She auditioned, but she was not picked.

She felt so embarrassed and felt so rejected. She looked at the other girls chosen for the dance. They are beautiful and the top in her class.

That left her felt not good enough.

So, I gave her a hug, and I re-parent her.

Then, I asked her if she wanted to dance the "Pearly Shell" with me.

We danced and danced and danced. I felt so much joy within me. In my mind's eye, I see my inner child laughing and was so happy. I told my inner child not to be afraid. We are good enough. What we will do doesn't need to be perfect. It doesn't matter if people will choose to watch my videos or not; I will show up like her who showed up in the audition.

I commended her for that one big move, and I told her I was so proud of her. As an adult, I will do the same and show up for things that matter to us. After that, I feel confident in starting my YouTube channel- Love Heal Believe with Dolly Oksman.

Why is it important to connect with your inner child?

In my experience, knowing, understanding, and reparenting, my inner child help me in my healing process. It also helps me handle stress, control my roller-coaster emotions, and improve my self-esteem.

Meeting and connecting with my inner child help me become a better person. Also, it helps me love and accept myself as I am.

Meet, Know, and Be a friend to your inner child.

If you want to know more about your inner child, I created The Love Roadmap: The Journey to Loving Yourself Unconditionally Program

The Love Roadmap will take you on an inner journey towards self-love.

If you are a woman and are interested in this program, I want to talk with you. You can visit my website and schedule a complimentary session or email me at

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