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10 Ways to Express Self-Love

To experience real happiness, peace, and love, you need to love yourself.


Do you struggle to love yourself?

Do you think you are unlovable, not enough, and have a face that only a mother can love?

Where are these limiting beliefs about yourself coming from? Do other people make you feel that way? When you constantly think negatively about yourself, your life will be miserable.

How do I know? Because I experienced it.

When you always think negatively about yourself. Nothing seems right with you, so you strive harder for people to love you and accept you.

You hide your real self from others. You pretend to be someone you are not. Pretending often is very stressful and could lead to depression as you oppress what you feel and think.

When you have low self-esteem and low self-concept, you will not think worthy and valuable. More often, you unconsciously or consciously allow others to take advantage of you. You set no boundaries because you crave love and attention. You think that pleasing others and seeking approval is the only way to get the love, attention, and acceptance you desire.

My friend, I have bad news for you– It is not!

It will make your life even worse because those people will get more from you to fill their needs. They will take from you until you are drained, and you have nothing to give anymore. You will be stressed, feel empty, and emotionally, physically, and spiritually drained.

To experience real happiness, peace, and love, you need to love yourself.

Having a high degree of self-love makes it easier for you to take care of yourself and set boundaries. When you love yourself and treat yourself with respect and kindness, you will exude that energy of love. People will begin catching that energy, and you will attract love and care.

I challenge you to start loving yourself. Begin your journey to self-love with your new book, Finding Your Lost Self: Your 30-Day Journey to Self-Love.

Here are some ideas on establishing a deeper relationship with yourself.

Spend time for yourself. Make it your daily priority to have time for yourself. Make this your relaxing time, a time away from people or events that give you stress.

Journaling. I love this saying from Socrates "The unexamined self is not worth living." Increase self-awareness on what's going on in your life and capture the lessons you learn in your journal. Writing can help you access your subconscious mind and take it to your conscious mind to transform what needs to change and enhance those you have that could help you where you want to be.

Spend time in prayer and meditation. One of the methods that will help you develop self-love is to spend time in prayer and meditation. It will take you to deeper self-knowledge as you connect to your Creator and the source of your being.

Nourish your body by eating and drinking healthy food and beverages. Make an inventory of what you are eating and how you feel after eating them. Then, subtract one or two things you are eating or drinking that don't do good for you and add nutritious food and beverages.

Watch what you allow to get into your mind. Feed your mind with better things-- things that will motivate, inspire and uplift your spirit. A famous saying says, "You become what you think often." When you feed your mind with a lot of junk and negativities, don't be surprised that you will get junk and negativities in your life too. So, choose what you allow to get into your mind wisely.

Clean up your social life. Who are the people you hang out with more often? It is an eye-opener for me when I hear that I am the average of the people I hang out always. What is your goal in life? What do you envision your future life to look like? If you want to be successful, and achieve your desired life, hang out with people who have the life you dreamed of and learn from them. Also, lessen or stop your interaction with people who don't treat you well.

Look your best. When people aren't happy with themselves, they usually don't mind

their physical appearance. So give your physical self the attention it deserves. Exercise to make you feel better and dress appropriately to look your best.

Forgive yourself. It's pretty tough to love yourself if you haven't forgiven yourself for

your past mistakes and failures. There's nothing you can do about the past, so it only

makes sense to let it go and forgive yourself. The things that happened in the past are

best left there.

Forgive those who wronged you. Stop punishing yourself for the bad things that others did to you. When you don't forgive others, those people hurt you only once. Still, you continually hurt yourself by remembering the terrible things they did to you in your body.

Let them go. Release them from your mind's prison. Love yourself enough that you will not let these people who hurt you in your past continually tear you apart by reliving what they did to you.

Do the Things You've Love to Do. What are the things you've always wanted to do but are afraid to do or couldn't find time to do? Let today be the day you start implementing and acting on what you've always wanted to do. Annihilate that limiting beliefs and tap into your strengths and giftedness.

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If you want to know how well you express love for yourself, take this Self-Love Inventory to assess your level of self-love.

If you can't love yourself, who else will? Treat yourself like you matter, and you'll begin to believe that you do. Our actions can lead to our beliefs, and what we think about ourselves can lead us to act in a certain way.

I urge you to love yourself. You'll be glad you did it.

Next Steps

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Dolly Tampos-Oksman, MA, MAED-SPED, CAS Certified Wellness Coach, Certified Neuro-Linquistic Programmer Practitioner, Certified Autism Specialist, Author, and Speaker Website|Facebook|Instagram



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