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How To Be The Version You Are Meant To Be

Can you control your emotions and feelings?

Peace, Joy, and Love be with you!

Can you control your emotions and feelings?

Can you control your anger? How about your reactions toward unwanted circumstances?

Have you wondered why there are people who remain joyful even they are tossed by waves and experience a lot of problems? people who stay at peace and calm amidst unfortunate events and in whatever seasons or weather?

According to an unknown author, “You have mastered a soul lesson when the circumstance has not changed, but the way you respond has. This is true energy, self-mastery.”

In this blog, you will learn about self-mastery, why is it important, the first step toward self-mastery, and a mindfulness exercise that may help you know more about yourself.

What is self-mastery?

Self-mastery is your ability to recognize your potentials, your giftedness, your talents, and your strengths and use them to transform yourself and better serve other people.

Self- mastery is your ability to look at other people with acceptance and understanding, knowing that like you, they have imperfections.

Self-mastery is your ability to face head-on the past experiences that hurt you and forgive people for hurting you.

Why is self-mastery important

I want to share with you my story, so I can better explain the importance of self-mastery.

More than 20 years ago, I experienced a bottomless emptiness within me. I tried to fill it with pleasures and in going to church almost every day. I also tried to fill it by making other people happy and achieving goals after goals. But no matter how much I tried, the more it feels the hole becomes deeper and deeper.

A couple of times, I tried to commit suicide to end that feeling of emptiness and too much sadness (At that time in my country, depression was not in our vocabulary so I just describe it as extreme sadness). Thank God for the divine intervention.

I wanted to make sense of that feeling so I quest on understanding my feeling and behavior. Then, one day, I met a nun who told me the importance of self-knowledge, self-love, and self-mastery.

When I come to know, understand, and love myself, I learn to control and redirect my responses as well as how I feel about myself.

I gradually learn to master myself and until I am still learning and growing in self-mastery as I come to discover more about myself.

In the process, I learn the importance of self-mastery.

Self-mastery enables you to improve your relationship with yourself.

When you come to be aware and know more of yourself, understand your strengths and weaknesses, and every aspect of yourself, it is easier for you to accept and forgive your shortcomings.

Self-mastery enables you to improve your relationships with other people.

You will learn to channel your emotions and feelings. You will become more proactive than reactive. As a result, you will have better interactions with other people. Self-mastery enables you to be aware of your present moment and have better control of your responses, thoughts, feelings, and sensations. self-mastery enables you to be grateful for every circumstance in your life and helps you see beauty and light in every situation that seems ugly and gloomy. How to develop self-mastery Self-mastery is a lifelong process that we need to practice. But we can learn the skills of it. It is important that you have to be gentle with yourself and not judge yourself as you go through the process. The first step to self-mastery is self-awareness. Self-awareness is our ability to listen and be aware of your thoughts, feelings, emotions, body sensations, and the concept you have for yourself. Once you become aware, you can easily control and redirect them. Many people go through life’s motions without being aware of their pattern of thinking that has some effect on one’s feelings and state of being. How aware are you of the thoughts that come in and out of your mind? Study shows that a person has 60-80 thousand thoughts each day. How many of those are you aware of? Let us try this exercise to see how aware are you are of your thoughts. Mindfulness exercise: Thought Watching (1-2 minutes) Sit or stand in a comfortable position. Find your center. Then, take three deep breaths. as you breathe in, feel the sensation as the air enters your nose and then release your breath slowly through your nose or mouth ”breath in — breath out (3x). Go back to your normal breathing. Now, watch the thoughts that go in and out of your mind. Do this for a minute or two. When you are ready, you can open your eyes.

Reflection Questions What thoughts are coming in and out of your mind? are they positive thoughts, negative thoughts, happy thoughts, sad thoughts? journal these thoughts. If you have a lot of negative thoughts, try to challenge them if they are real or your truth. According to Budhha,” What you think, you become” Be aware of your thoughts and master your thoughts. your present and future self will thank you for it. If you want to develop self-mastery, Check-out our New Program “The Journey to Unlocking and Loving Your Authentic Self.” Click the link below to know more



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